Started in 2011 as my outlet to share my experiences on personal life and work topics. My handle is khanmjk. My friends & colleagues call me "Mo". This blog is an experiment, work-in-progress. Life: Self-awareness, personal development, growth hacking (quantified self). Work: Software and Systems Engineering, Leadership, Management, New Ideas and OpEds.
Monday, 6 January 2025
Where did my time go in 2024? Sharing my 2024 Personametry results.
Sunday, 14 January 2024
My experiment with ChatGPT as a recommendations engine using Netflix data
Experiment: ChatGPT as a content recommendation expert - Epic Fail
Wednesday, 10 January 2024
Personametry 2023 - Wheel of life streams, hours logged
It's that time of the year when I sit down and review my time tracking data for the year. This time round, playing around with ChatGPT (whilst still maintaining my AWS Quicksight dashboards). I was quite looking forward to continuing to use Noteable's AI/Data tools, sadly the service shut down :-(
- Rest and Sleep (Individual): A substantial 2,856.11 hours, akin to the restorative power of a long, rejuvenating sleep every night.
- Professional Work: Impressively, 2,051.20 hours were dedicated to your professional life, showing a solid commitment to career growth and achievements.
- Family Time (Family-Man): A heartwarming 1,398.79 hours spent with family, which is like embarking on a year-long road trip with your loved ones, filled with bonding and cherished memories.
- Spirituality (Individual): A profound 1,106.44 hours in spiritual pursuits, reflecting a journey akin to a spiritual retreat, deepening your inner peace and understanding.
- Personal Time (Individual): 467.55 hours of 'Me Time', ensuring a healthy balance of personal space and activities, like taking a short, refreshing break each day.
- Marital/Wife (Husband): 451.91 hours dedicated to marital life, resonating with the quality time spent in building a strong, supportive partnership.
- Knowledge and Learning (Individual): 202.88 hours of enriching your mind, like attending a series of insightful lectures throughout the year.
- Health and Fitness (Individual): 145.07 hours, a commitment to staying active and healthy, similar to a consistent routine of short, daily workouts.
- Social (Friend): 117.06 hours, akin to enjoying meaningful social gatherings, reinforcing bonds and making memories.
Tuesday, 19 December 2023
My RAGE model compared to The Wheel of Life
Comparative Report: Meyer's Wheel of Life vs. Mo Khan's RAGE Model
Introduction
This report provides a comparative analysis of two influential personal development tools: Meyer's Wheel of Life and Mo Khan's RAGE Model. Both models are designed to enhance self-awareness and personal growth, yet they differ significantly in their approach and methodology.
Meyer's Wheel of Life
- Overview: The Wheel of Life is a holistic self-assessment tool designed by Paul J. Meyer, a pioneer in the field of motivational thinking and self-improvement.
- Components: It typically includes segments such as Career, Personal Growth, Health, Family & Friends, Finances, Spirituality, Recreation, and Physical Environment.
- Function: Users rate their satisfaction in each area, visually representing life balance and identifying areas for improvement.
- Application: Widely used in coaching and self-help, it guides personal development and goal setting.
- Learn More: Success Motivation Institute
Mo Khan's RAGE Model
- Overview: The RAGE Model, an acronym for Reality, Aspirations, Goals, Expectations, is a framework for personal development conceptualized by Mo Khan.
- Components: It involves introspection across various life 'personas', assessing the current reality, setting aspirations, establishing goals, and managing expectations for each persona.
- Function: The model uses agile management techniques and a detailed scoring system for prioritization and tracking progress.
- Application: Khan’s approach is detailed and systematic, suitable for those who prefer an analytical approach to personal development.
- Learn More: Mo Khan’s Blog
Similarities
- Holistic Approach: Both models provide a comprehensive view of personal life, emphasizing multiple areas or aspects.
- Self-Reflection: They encourage self-assessment as a means of identifying areas of focus.
- Goal-Oriented: Each model promotes setting and pursuing personal goals.
- Personal Development: They are tools for enhancing self-awareness and guiding growth.
Differences
- Complexity: The Wheel of Life is simpler and more visual, while the RAGE Model is more complex and analytical.
- Approach: Meyer’s model is qualitative, focusing on self-rated satisfaction, whereas Khan’s model is quantitative, employing a scoring system.
- Focus Areas: The Wheel of Life has predefined life segments; the RAGE Model allows for personalized 'personas'.
- Tracking: The RAGE Model includes rigorous tracking mechanisms, unlike the Wheel of Life.
- Background: Meyer's model stems from motivational training, while Khan’s is influenced by agile product management.
Conclusion
Meyer's Wheel of Life and Mo Khan's RAGE Model, while sharing the goal of fostering personal growth, differ in structure, complexity, and application. The Wheel of Life is a straightforward tool for periodic self-assessment, ideal for a broad audience. In contrast, the RAGE Model offers a detailed framework for systematically setting, prioritizing, and tracking personal development goals, appealing to those who prefer a more structured approach. Both models provide valuable insights into personal development, and the choice between them depends on individual preferences and the desired level of detail and structure in personal growth planning.
Tuesday, 10 January 2023
2022 Personametry Tracking - Work/Life Balance & Harmony Update
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I've been doing this exercise consistently over the last eight years! Am I crazy? Maybe?! I've become quite the data junkie, and I'm loving it!
I know that tracking every activity and accounting for every minute of one's life might seem like overkill to most people. I on the other hand, actually quite enjoy doing so! :-) Primarily because having insights into how I spend my time has really helped me be more conscious and intentional about my aspirations, goals and expectations covering all dimensions of my life, seeking balance and harmony in my personal and professional streams. My methods allow me to focus and maintain discipline with my time...
This is my value system that describes my streams:
Muslim | Individual | Professional (Work) | Husband | Family-Man | Social/Friend
When someone asks me the following: Mo, how's life? Mo, how are you doing work-wise? Mo, how's things? Are you happy? Are you meeting your aspirations? Mo, what consumes most of your time these days? I can have a sincere and authentic conversation about it.
In 2015, I researched productivity and personal development methods extensively, culminating to me creating my own frameworks:
- RAGE (Reality Aspirations Goals Expectations). Knowing yourself, i.e. what you stand for, your value system, by identifying Personas. For each Persona, define Aspirations/Goals that becomes your long term personal roadmap. What emerges from this is a scorecard that you can track your progress, see example from 2020.
- PERSONAMETRY is another concept I created that essentially captures key metrics about yourself, TIME being our most valuable resource. If time is our most valuable resource, do we not owe it to ourselves to account for it? For each Persona you identify with, Personametry is your personal telemetry. It can be extended to a variety of use cases, including overall happiness/stress sentiment analysis. If you're keen to learn more, check out this product specification document I created years ago, but alas, haven't developed the app for it as yet (alas, no time, wasn't a priority!)
Analysing 2022 v 2021 - Data Analysis & Insights
Sunday, 14 August 2022
My 2022 mid-year review of Life/Work streams
- Work hours is down 28%
- Spirituality is up 53%
- Family time is up 27%
- Social time is up 75%
- Overall "Me Time" is up 16%
Sunday, 16 January 2022
Diving deeper with personal analytics
In my first post of 2022, I shared some analytics of my life tracking data for the last 6 years. I couldn't help myself going down the rabbit hole with additional questions that could be used to trigger additional self reflection, which would then spark me to make deliberate changes in my life. It was quite fun going down the rabbit hole playing with AWS Quicksight and manipulating data fields to get to the answers I sought.
When I have more time to play around, I think an AI/ML personal assistant should use my data to help me with insights. I believe there will be a market in personal analytics or metrics, or personal telemetry that I've coined the termed personametry back in 2015. At that time I wanted to build a product based on my RAGE model called personametry. Alas, that project is still on the backburner, and I've made a ton of excuses (to be honest) not getting it off the ground. Yes, my work got in the way, reality of family and financial obligations, then complacency and comforts-of-life (aka laziness). If I was serious about it, I would've made a plan. I resigned to keep tracking my data, keeping abreast of the progress of personal assistants, productivity apps and personal tracking devices, looking for the timing when things begin to fall into place!!
If you have additional questions you think might inspire changes & personal improvements, let me know in the comments section!
How do I breakdown my 24-hour days?
Monday, 3 January 2022
2021 Life/Work streams review with 6 years data points
It's that time of the year when I review my personal time keeping metrics showing how I've spent my time over the previous year. I've been doing this exercise diligently since 2015, when I created a framework for myself called "RAGE" Reality, Aspirations, Goals, Expectations. Using ideas from software engineering and product management, I decided to map out my personal (life) and professional (work) streams across the many dimensions I was involved in (Muslim | Individual | Professional | Husband | Father | Friend | etc.). I focused on Time as the key metric to track, since time is one of the most important resource that should never be squandered.
The idea is simple: if something is important to me, then I should be spending time in that area - but if I end up spending little or zero time on that thing, then that thing must have not been as important to me as I thought it was.
Tracking time allows me to answer questions like:
- Am I spending time in the areas that are important to me?
- Which areas am I over indexing on that negatively impacts my other steams, robbing me of value?
- Am I giving each stream the necessary amount of attention?
- What decisions do I need to make when the data and anecdotes (feelings / instincts) don't match up?
2021 Re-starting Life & Work (again)
Monday, 18 January 2021
2020 review, major decisions & re-invention
- How do I get my work hours of the previous three years under control? What am I willing to walk away from?
- Where next do I take my career? Do I remain with Pay TV moving further up to Group CIO/CTO or should I do something else altogether at the risk of going down a couple steps in the ladder?
- How serious am I about working with, or starting my own NGO/NPO non-profit?
- What am I going to do with my growing list of product / business start-up ideas?
- Should I leave South Africa and return back to the UK; or should I relocate to another country whilst still working in Pay TV?
- I quit my job, my own sabbatical with no return policy - thus creating space for me to rest, recuperate & reflect. This wasn't an easy decision to make, as I was walking away from some rather good monetary incentives due to cash out in early 2021, and as a result of Covid-19, the prudent thing to do would've been to stick it out until the world recovered. Yet, I left anyway, putting into perspective What am I willing to walk away from?
- This was only possible because 5 years ago, when I started my RAGE model, one of the aspirations for my persona as an individual was "To be debt-free on the road to financial independence". Since I was debt free, and maybe 30% on the road to financial independence, I had enough saved up to afford a break for at least a year.
- Life is short, we've lost loved ones unexpectedly in 2020. I have tweaked my life model somewhat to weigh more strongly toward living a life of meaning, purpose & enjoying the present more.
- I decided to leave TV behind - switch domains - do something else preferably in cloud services. I will use my sabbatical time to ramp-up and then land a new job. This too wasn't quite that easy:
- I'd reached a peak in my career with a highly respected company in the industry, although I knew I had gaps to close to move to the next level. It took a long time to mentally let go, but I found my flame again that helped me remember my past as inspiration to change my future.
- I even considered going to medical school - but that didn't make much sense financially in terms of my family responsibilities and commitments.
- Being the practical guy, I ended up cutting my sabbatical short because I landed a job much sooner than I anticipated - and as a result - ended up making not only a new job decision, but also a relocation to a new city decision too!
- Not serious about starting my own NGO - I spent a good few days unpacking this topic. I even went through a "finding purpose" retrospective and mind-mapped the options. Lo and behold, there appeared a golden thread throughout my life on working with blind and partially-sighted people. So I planned to use my sabbatical to explore that option...but that was short-lived. So decision: NO, not financially feasible for me. Instead I'll join accessibility-related community meetups at work, continue to donate money to causes and look to committing some of my time as a volunteer (which has been difficult, since it doesn't appear anywhere in my Persona priorities).
- Not serious about being an entrepreneur because I don't have the time nor the resources to focus on it properly. I will rather focus my energy into innovating at work. I will still build and maintain my ideas repository because I'm an ideas guy - but if the timekeeping from the last five years has shown me anything - it's not that important to me - a wantrepreneur! I will still look at angel investing opportunities though. Thus "Being an Entrepreneur / Run my own product start-up" has been deprecated as a persona. It's actually such a relief to just let that go and leave it all behind! Shedding unrealistic aspirations reduces stress and anxiety, reinforcing a sense of perspective. A cup can only hold that much water before overflowing, the same with life!
- Decided to remain in South Africa but instead try a new city, Cape Town. I was lucky to meet a career aspiration and a lifestyle aspiration (to live in a coastal city & enjoy nature) at the same time, but I'm still a little far off from having my own beachfront holiday homes so a 20 minute drive to the seaside is a good start though!!
Friday, 3 January 2020
Year 2019 in Review, Welcome 2020!
- Recap my personal value system - persona matrix & priorities
- Snapshot of tracking my RAGE progress by milestone reviews heatmap
- Performance appraisal - Did I achieve my intended outcomes / goals set in Jan 2019?
- Quantifying every hour of 2019 - where did I spend my time, what did I do?
- Does it look like I have my life-work balance under control?
- Am I working too much, sacrificing my personal and family streams?
- Am I enjoying my current job?
- What are the main things impacting my future personal & professional aspirations?
Saturday, 5 January 2019
2018 Year In Review & 2019 Thoughts
Recap my RAGE Model (Reality, Aspirations, Goals, Expectations) Tracking
Current Persona Matrix Rankings |
What are the big challenges for me?
- Being a professional, i.e. having a stable income stream is currently a hard reality constraint. I need an income to support my family - so this is something I should not compromise on - but I still need to control it - I should not be overworking, at the expense of my personal life interests. So the data on work hours is important. When I read about pursuing dreams, passions, etc. about breaking out, taking risks, quitting your job etc. the reality around finances, lifestyle and family stability kicks-in - it's not an easy thing to do...this is a hard reality. I have to think of ways to ensure I do my best work, provide the best service to my employer, but not let work over consume me at the expense of my other streams (which as the data shows is not actually happening). Unless I can find a way to create a passive income stream outside of my main job, this constraint is going to be around for a while. The outcome for this year must be to bring my work-hours to a decent level freeing up time to focus on my personal interests.
- It's quite difficult to switch off from the office these days - even whilst at home, social media chats through Slack & WhatsApp are disruptions, that can't be tracked in hours - so whilst in "family mode", I must respond to chats - this time is unaccounted for. If I were to include all these moments as "work", then work-time increases...which is why this topic of "work-life integration" is becoming more mainstream.
- The functions of resting and sleeping for a human being is something that must be respected, and can't be compromised. I maintain an average of 8 hours of sleep per night, so this is a hard constraint. Eight hours has been validated as the ideal, I can go on for a few days with less sleep, but it's not sustainable. This means that the rest of my time must be allocated around this, with Work/Professional consuming a large chunk of this.
- Giving focus to my own personal interests as an individual, outside of being a Husband / Father / Family-Man, etc. seems like I'm sacrificing my own interests, i.e. putting myself last - and this is where the spiritual dimension of being a Muslim comes in to help - it's sometimes a struggle to deal with these frustrations.
2018 Data Insights - Tracking the Time / Hours spent
2018 Persona Hours, focus on Working Hours & Overall Happiness at work
General Happiness & Well-Being at Work
Life in general is good, but my Personal streams are taking a knock
- Reading books - did well enough to track against my goal of 24 books, ended up completing 21 books last year. Not bad.
- Spirituality - tracking very nicely, spent 10 days in seclusion in June, time well spent.
- Me Time - this is time I spend by myself, thinking, exploring or even binge-watching shows ;-)
- Health & Fitness - dismal year. I had some health issues creep up on me last year. Not good.
- Cycling - very little done. According to my Strava logs: 29 days, 47 hours, 585km.
- Blogging - regressed big time - need to do at least one post a month
- Entrepreneur - my ideas still collecting dust. Pathetic, makes me really wonder about this!
Major Outcomes for 2019: Intent
- Professional
- Get work-hours down to a manageable level, target no more than 170 hours per month
- Continue to build a strong leadership team thus removing me as a bottleneck, focus on strategic outcomes, less operational
- Spread in more leave time, reduce sleepless nights to zero
- Personal - Individual - Entrepreneur
- Spec out my Rage/Personametry product idea and get an MVP done, even if it's manual
- Attend at least 6 Start-Up meet-ups this year
- Personal - Individual - Health
- Improve current fitness state - there should be no 0% activities in a month
- Personal - Life & Family
- Introduce consistency & routine into happiness building activities - at least once a month we should develop a routine around the things we enjoy doing as a family
Tuesday, 1 January 2019
Am I hunting antelope or field mice?
Am I hunting antelope or field mice?
Newt Gingrich is one of the most successful political leaders of our time...Now that he's in the private sector, Newt uses a brilliant illustration to explain the need to focus on the big things and let the little stuff slide: the analogy of the field mice and the antelope.
A lion is fully capable of capturing, killing, and eating a field mouse. But it turns out that the energy required to do so exceeds the caloric content of the mouse itself. So a lion that spent its day hunting and eating field mice would slowly starve to death. A lion can't live on field mice. A lion needs antelope. Antelope are big animals. They take more speed and strength to capture and kill, and once killed, they provide a feast for the lion and her pride. A lion can live a long and happy life on a diet of antelope.
The distinction is important. Are you spending all your time and exhausting all your energy catching field mice? In the short term it might give out a nice, rewarding feeling. But in the long run you're going to die. So ask yourself at the end of the day, "Did I spend today chasing mice or hunting antelope?"
Initial Thoughts?
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Then having spent enough time consulting, it felt more and more that I ended up hunting field mice again (consultants were excluded from big meaty execution decisions and did not have a seat at the table), so I went back into permanent with the same company...I am getting my share of antelopes now with a seat at the table, but more often I find myself being dragged into field mice problems. My solution to this problem is through effective delegation and empowering my people, the challenge is that my peers and bosses have trouble appreciating this tactic...what I view as field mice problems is not always seen in the same light by the people that further up in the food chain - so maybe I'm not a lion after-all ;-) or maybe I need to find another pride of lions with the same mindset as I...??
It might well be that my current job is not the antelope I'm searching for...that my real antelope is still out there evading me, and could it be that my fear is the only thing that is holding me back??
So that's thoughts on professional life...in terms of family life, this story could also be applied as well. Being a husband and a father to three children, whilst very rewarding on levels that can't really be measured or quantified well, is probably the most challenging experience one can have...in my case it's about letting go of being a control-freak, not sweating the small stuff (field mice) and focus on the bigger important stuff...whilst I'm an expert project manager in the professional world, the project of a family and raising children is THE most intense project to manage in life...
2019 must be the year I either bag an antelope or at least make strides in identifying bigger game...My RAGE model and my focus on the 80/20 principle in all aspects of my work and life are tools that are helping me on this journey - and if I were to assess my progress since starting with my RAGE model tracking, then things don't look bad at all.
My gut tells me that 2019 is going to be an interesting year for me professionally...