Learn, Practice, Train, Apply, Teach

That's why the philosophers warn us not to be satisfied with mere learning, but to add practice and then training. For as time passes we forget what we learned and end up doing the opposite, and hold opinions the opposite of what we should.

-- Epictetus, Discourses, 2.9.13-14 

* Source: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman

Seven functions of the mind

The proper work of the mind is the exercise of choice, refusal, yearning, replusion, preparation, purpose, and assent. What then can pollute and clog the mind's proper functioning? Nothing but its own corrupt decisions.

-- Epictetus, Discourses, 4.11.6-7 

* Source: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman

No one said it'd be easy

Good people will do what they find honorable to do, even if it requires hard work; they'll do it even if causes them injury; they'll do it even if it will bring danger. Again, they won't do what they find base, even if it brings wealth, pleasure or power. Nothing will deter them from what is honorable, and nothing will lure them into what is base.

-- Seneca, Moral Letters, 76.18 

* Source: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman

Made for working together

Whenever you have trouble getting up in the morning, remind yourself that you've been made by nature for the purpose of working with others, whereas even unthinking animals share sleeping. And it's our own natural purpose that is more fitting and more satisfying.

-- Marcus Aurelius, Meditations, 8.12

* Source: The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday and Stephen Hanselman

 

GROW Model - Coaching questions to consider

I recently came across the GROW model which I think complements my own RAGE model quite nicely when it comes to inspecting aspirations and goals. It's all about seeking clarity through questions:

Goal - What do you want? What's your desired outcomes (Aspirations)?

• What would you notice if you were performing in this area more proficiently?
• What would others notice if you were performing in this area more proficiently?
• What would be the benefits to your team / family / business / friends of you gaining proficiency in this area?
• What is the short- and long-term impact of you not enhancing in this area?

Reality - What's your current situation? Be brutally honest about current reality.

• What is the current state of your proficiency in this area?
• What have you done till date to develop proficiency in this area?
• What has helped your progress?
• What has held you back?
• How long have you been working on enhancing yourself in this area?
• Where do you feel stuck?
• What perceptions about yourself might be getting in your way?
• Are these perceptions accurate? How do you know?

Options - Exploring possibilities / Expectations. What could you do?

• What do you feel you need to gain proficiency in this area?
• What are the possible actions you can take to enhance yourself in this area?
• What else can you do? Probe deeper
• Now that you are aware of the possibilities, which one would you try first?
• What would you like to have happen?
• If you do nothing, what will be the impact?
• What does the wiser part of you tell you?
• If you were coaching someone on enhancing themselves in this area, what might you say to them?
• If there were no limitations/restrictions, what might you do?
• What options are within your control?

Will - What will you do? Commitment / Next Steps? 

• What support do you need to be successful in your next steps?
• What obstacles do you anticipate? How will you navigate them?
• How might you motivate yourself when things get tough?
• Who might be able to help you in achieving your next steps?