A topic that's been on my mind of late...
The thing with "Pick your battles"...
Everyone says, "Pick your battles," and they're right. But usually they only mean "Pick your battles based on whether or not you have a good chance to win." That's fine, as far as it goes. But we think you should be even more pickier.Only pick battles that are:a) winnableb) importantc) battles for which you're fully prepared to pay the price to wind) battles you're damn sure you can afford to win
-- Quote from "Buck Up, Suck Up...and come back when you foul up" by Carville & Begala
So think and reflect on that deeply. Remember other anecdotes "If you want to fight, you have to get into the ring, it will get bloody messy but you can't stop until you give it your all".
Which battles are you fighting in your head?
What's keeping you up awake at night, causing you sleepless nights?
This could be personal or professional, or a professional work scenario that's starting to negatively impact your personal & family life, possibly causing anxiety and borderline depression.
Before diving straight into battle mode, it might be prudent to find a quiet space to brainstorm.
Mind map each scenario and use the four criteria above to map pros/cons, upsides/downsides, apply some rationality to the process.
It will be hard to fight the emotions, but you got to try.
Be critical.
Be meticulous.
Be objective.
Play devil's advocate. Is it just your ego being bruised?
It's not about being safe and taking the easy way out, nor is it about being risk averse. It's about being sensible, a matter of calculated, smart survival tactics, at the expense of giving into emotions.
Sometimes one has to lose a couple of battles to win the war.
It's about the long game - envision a future where your current troubles disappear and replaced with victory & triumph. Keep doing this as often as you can to get through the dip.
But...sometimes, if not most of the time, emotion & gut instinct are indeed right! After thousands of years, we humans still have our lizard brain, the instinctive reflex of "fight or flight" has served and continues to serve & save us.
My gut instincts have saved me more times than I can remember, so it might be perfectly okay to react too.
Going with your gut, embracing the emotion (anger, disappointment, betrayal, rejection, doubt, etc.) can be very powerful motivators for change...
These, coupled with your closely-bound value system, can be the only key indicators for you to decide to get into battle...when you do get into it, you need to be prepared for various scenarios...especially when the impact of going into battle has far reaching consequences other than yourself: you family, friends, loved ones, colleagues, your own reputation, etc.
Another tool is to seek out close confidants, mentors and guides - the counsel "Shura" of other trusted parties can generally help you seeing things that you might be currently blind to (since all you can think about are the battles raging in your head).
After all of that, once you've processed the noise in your head, sought counsel, go back and ask yourself: What am I willing to walk away from??
Then....
Take a deep breath...build up courage....and take that first step (battle or not) and never look back...
another #thismightnotwork post